Husbands have some dignity…

The holy book says, man leaves his father and mother and is united with his wife and they become one. When you know her that means you have become on body with her and her with you so you are one.

                                                             

According all the nice statements we hear is that one duty of a man is to protect his wife. And it is important to note that it does not matter how annoyed or aggrieved you are with her, if you pride yourself at being the bigger man in the family or the head of the family where do you get off embarrassing and exposing her nakedness to the world. When you call the media people to help you catch your adulterous wife what exactly have you solved? where is the joy of exposing her nakedness to other men  cops and camera crew, I hope you do not think they care, point of correction people do not care about your issues they are going through harder things than that mountain of yours.

What is intriguing about humanity is that we forget or foolishly distance ourselves from the fact that we are in fact exposing ourselves to the world remember, you are one with her. Actually husbands the only time you are supposed to let her nakedness be seen by some specific people is when she is going to give birth or getting an operation.

Now let us come to your kids, does it mean they do not matter when you get angry, do you care the ridicule they will get from other kids in school or you have plans of transferring them from their current school? Do you think they will love you more for disgracing their mother and is it guaranteed that the woman who will replace their mother will be perfect? Vengeance belongs to the Lord that is what the holy book says. Now since you have cast the biggest stone and it takes two to tango what is your role in the whole saga, why did your wife decide to leave the matrimonial bed in the first place, once you get off from your pedestal could you take some responsibility please…so that reconciliation and healing can start because we acknowledge you feel betrayed.

From where am spectating. The best thing you should have done is to go the Joseph way of making a decision to break the engagement quietly when he learnt that Mary was pregnant. Finally a story I was told of a man who had an unfaithful wife like yours. What he did was let her go quietly and he married another wife. When she finally died he took her body and gave her a decent burial. When asked why he did that his response was she is still my wife and the mother of my kids and everything I have we acquired together.

Let us all be decent with one another. I appreciate the power of hurt from a loved one and the need to make them pay for hurting you. If love covers a multitude of sins let it cover that hurt you are experiencing.

Tit for Tat is not a fair game because we are not islands…