Daughter-In-Law Stand Your Ground…

Today I feel like encouraging the daughter in laws. I understand these days they are called daughter in love but I think that is just a gimmick of trying to make it sound softer than the way it is. Am just wondering if the daughter in love statement could apply to the citizen TV program called mother-in-law. I would rather the status quo remains that way we all know where we stand with each other. Let us not sugar coat pepper it does not work and will not work.

I mean in the first place daughter in law you are coming into a family and taking a mama’s boy and you want to force him to be responsible, the mama will definitely resist it, it’s nothing personal but come to think of it is personal and war gets declared, the day you were are brought home as a prospective candidate. And although she will not say it openly her statements behind your back speaks volume so do not allow yourself to be deceived with the daughter in love statements at the back of your mind remember you have someone’s apple and the bond between mother and her kids is strong and which am very sure you will realize when you get yours, and before soon you will be the evil mother in law. So do not do to your mother in law what you would not want done to you since before soon you find yourself in the same shoes.

Now having said all that, it is also good to know your position in the family and the reason why you should not let those in-laws walk all over or became their punching bag or their house help not to mention a door mat. We have heard stories and they are not every nice.

So exactly why do you think you came to the family? I mean this guy had a family, he used to eat homemade cooked meals made by mum or siblings, he used to wear clean ironed clothes, generally he used to clean after himself or someone else used to do that for him, so that is not something special you are bring in to the family. He actually used to be much happier without you because then, he was not being forced or required to learn the art of interpreting your mood swings or to endure your nags, your strict military rules that he has to always check in with you after one or two hours, it is a grave sin for him to forget anniversaries. The point is both of you just like Paul says (1 Cor 7) were far better off alone than all the hassles of staying together because it is a lot of work seeing opposites attract and after attraction they have to find a way of working and living together in harmony.

The great news is you came to offer a service that the mother and the sisters could not offer and that is what makes you a very important person (VIP) in that family. Actually if the in laws are mean to you, you can decide to go on strike and decide you will never cook in that house or wash and instead let his money do the walking. As long as you do not forget to offer him the services that brought you there. Your position in that family is assured and when in-laws become a nuisance it does not hurt to humbly or arrogantly and unashamedly remind them whichever the situations dictates why you are there.

The point is, even they cannot refute that fact, though still disgusted because they cannot imagine their apple enjoying some services its nasty! No wonder our African cultures never allowed our minds to run wild like that. But for you daughter in-law that would be definitely the last resort when you are between a rock and a hard place. The truth will set you free.

Daughter in law stand your ground.