The Act of Sex is a Basic Right...

….I am of the opinion that, the God of the bible is a very romantic God. He created the act of sex for human beings to enjoy themselves and did not reserve it to the married people. In the bible 8 chapters are reserved exclusively for pure romance, where we find descriptions of how things are done. The Song of Songs introduces the book as a series of love poems addressed by man to woman and woman to man. And though the songs are interpreted by Jews as a picture of the relationship between God and his people and by Christians as a picture of the relationship between Christ and the church, if indeed that is how God intended them to be then, it adds more weight to my statement that the God of the bible is very romantic. Imagine (…your lips cover me with kisses…your love is better than wine…. Be my king and take me to your room…).

In our African tradition and specifically the Kikuyu culture to which I belong there was a practice called Nguiko (restricted sexual act). “The practice was taught to the newly initiated boys and girls and this was shown by means of practical demonstration by the senior girls and there was no shame attached either to the instructor or the pupil. It was regarded as very important indeed that every junior girl should be adequately instructed in the correct way to perform Nguiko, for any failure to observe the correct methods and the rules was believed to cause misfortune. It was the task of the senior girls to teach the technique of restricted sexual intercourse known as (Nguiko) to the young warriors how to perform Nguiko properly” (Leakey L.S.B, The Southern Kikuyu (1977:739-740)). The lessons here were that there naked body is not something to be ashamed of and it was okay to explore and now each other plus it prepared the youth for marriage. And since there was no actual sexual encounter it taught them self-control.

If God in the bible has addressed the issue of sex act or love making so openly our African culture taught us that our nakedness was not something to be ashamed of why did we change the script and start to teach something different to our generation.

We need to redefine why our society is so terrified of the young people having sex. Yet they seem to be doing it at a very high rate. Rather than bury our heads in the sand, we should address the fact that our young people are having sex and we need to help them know how to do it properly.

The church needs to reevaluate their teaching on the issue of sex rather than preach only abstinence till marriage which seems not to be working for most, we all need to come together and decide how to tackle the giant and give the facts to the young people and prepare them just like our ancestors did and then after we have done that, we then go to the bible which the best instruction manual on the act of love making…

It does not make sense the tell the young people how sex is bad and then on the wedding night we overturn the lifetime lessons and start singing praise to sex act on how enjoyable it is and they should go to the honeymoon to feast yet they do not know the basics of what is required of them.